Our
Services
The purpose of a funeral is to provide a way of
commemorating a life and drawing together friends and family
members so that they can support each other as they share memories.
Although different religious communities have created set formats
or rituals that they follow in conducting funeral services, there
really is not a right or wrong way to do a funeral.
The most important thing to keep in mind when creating a service or
commemoration is that it should be reflective of the person who has
died. While religious elements may play a part, it should also
include stories about the person's life that help everyone
recapture and revisit their own memories. Sometimes this is best
accomplished by having friends or family members share their
reflections as part of the service. Some people personalize the
service with special music (which may be religious or
non-religious). Others bring in pictures to have at the service.
Sometimes favorite things that belonged to the deceased are
integrated into the ceremony such as wood carvings, golf clubs or
even a motor cycle.
The goal is to give a true sense of who this person was. There is
nothing wrong with telling funny stories about the person who died:
a funeral recognizes the sad event of a death, but can include
humor.
Whether or not an open casket is part of the ceremony is an
individual family choice. The main reason that we have any
"viewing," is because that allows people to have a physical
presence to focus on when saying their goodbyes. Since most people
are very visually inclined by nature, it seems to help them to see
the person for the death to be "real" to them and allows them to
better focus to begin to tidy up the loose ends that they have with
this person. A funeral helps people begin to complete their
relationship with the person who died, and sometimes seeing the
body helps.
When family members write us and thank us or places a thank you
notice in the newspaper for the help we gave their family at a most
difficult time, we feel very proud of our part in bringing a
lasting remembrance and closure to a loved ones life. It also
encourages us to work harder for our families to find just the
right service that will help personalize a service for everyone who
knew them.